Author(s)

Xuan Bao ¹, Yilin Cai ¹, Yuejing Yuan ¹, Ruoxv Shu ¹, Yunhan Sun ¹, Xiaowei Wu ¹

Affiliation(s)

¹ Beijing Normal University, Zhuhai, Guangdong, 519000, China

Corresponding Author

Xuan Bao

ABSTRACT

Drawing from qualitative methodology, this study employs semi-structured interviews to investigate the evolution and personality traits associated with PUA (Pick-Up Artistry), focusing on young individuals with firsthand experience. The research scrutinizes PUA through two principal lenses: relationship development and inherent personality traits. Key stages in relationship development were identified, each characterized by specific behavioral categories: early (social opportunities, participatory interaction, goal involvement), middle (relationship entitlement, waning efficacy, encouragement of sacrifice), and late (life entanglement, regretful actions). Additionally, three salient personality traits were discerned: emotional deprivation, low tolerance, and self-inefficacy. The study aims to elucidate the underlying mechanisms of PUA, thereby offering insights to help victims disengage from such relationships and mitigate the risks of similar detrimental interpersonal engagements.

KEYWORDS

PUA, relationship development, personal characteristics, qualitative study

CITE THIS PAPER

Xuan Bao, Yilin Cai, Yuejing Yuan, Ruoxv Shu, Yunhan Sun, Xiaowei Wu, The Intimacy Trap: PUA Based on Personal and Relational Perspectives a Qualitative Study of Relationships—An Arsenic "Love". Applied & Educational Psychology (2023) Vol. 4: 1-9. DOI: http://dx.doi.org/10.23977/appep.2023.041001.

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